When we are feeling like life is really doing a number on us, it’s difficult to feel happy. Sometimes we start to feel like we are a victim. We react to other’s words and actions and make it somehow about us. When our attitudes are victim like there are a few ways to pull out of it. After all, who wants to be unhappy? We are always responsible for how we feel. We get to choose that. I know that sounds really challenging sometimes. For me, I reach into my tool bag to help me get to a place of feeling better. The shift helps me deal with life and it’s curveballs and, frankly, other people.
When you are feeling like life is kicking you in the teeth or even just stirred up about something, the best way to move out of it is to get moving. Work out, walk, dance, swim, do anything that moves your body physically. For me, the harder the better. I Crossfit. If I have had a bad day or feeling out of sorts, I head to class. There is nothing better than wearing your butt out than Crossfit. I leave feeling satisfied and can hardly remember why I was upset in the first place.
Another great tool is Youtube. My standbys are anything by Abraham-Hicks. A funny dog or cat video also works.
Affirmations work too. I like “even though I am feeling sad, I love an approve of myself.” Just say that a few times and you will feel the shift. There are a lot of people who can’t say that they love or approve of themselves.
Try some of these little shifts to move you to a place of victory over victim. Your happiness is your job.
Peace and love.