Restoring Integrity

I have learned a lot in these past few years and especially these past several months. I have learned that when I am out of integrity there is a loss of power somewhere. What a loss of power means, is I feel out of control, stirred up, unhappy, angry, fearful and ultimately, my life doesn’t work. To restore my “power” I look for where I’m being inauthentic or where I am pretending something and how it is impacting my life and the lives around me. I had a big loss of power around a relationship with a man who goes by the name of Storm.

This loss of power came as a result of discovering lies and deceptions that he had created and I had been in denial about. I simply didn’t want to see that he was conning me. I pretended for a long time that he couldn’t possibly be lying and if he were, I would know. Trouble is, I knew, but didn’t admit it to myself. The embarrassment of finding out that for over a year I was duped was a lot to take.

In order for me to restore my integrity I had to become really clear about where I was pretending and to see how it impacted me and have a conversation with someone in order to create something new in my life. Luckily for me, I have a great support system who encouraged me to take a stand for myself and expose him for his lies and deceptions. “Storm” and I had a lengthy conversation where he had a new opportunity to come clean and admit he fabricated nearly everything about his life and who he was, but he refused.

What happened next was an affirmation that God/Source the Universe works so well when you align with doing the right thing. People stepped forward. Most were afraid that this man would retaliate, but they offered their stories, their evidence and even their reports from investigators hired to discover exactly who this person is. Through the gift of information, hard data, similar stories and an unstoppable attitude, a report was compiled and he was exposed. Of course, he worked tirelessly to have it removed.
However, truth doesn’t stay hidden.

Very recently, I had the chance to talk in person to someone who found him out and reached out to me. It felt good. It also renewed a resolve to stand for truth, to support people who were also sucked into his story and deception and to continue to help victims of this man to restore their sense of personal integrity.

The last part of restoring integrity is creating a new possibility for my life and anyone who has been impacted by lies and deceptions. For me, it was focusing on my circle of friendships who live near me, serving my clients, raising my kids and working on living a powerful life.

If you have been affected by someone’s lies and intentional deceptions, know you aren’t alone. Do your best to cut off contact and create a support network that can help you restore your integrity.